John Bacash's understanding of the healing process is that trust is the cornerstone of mental health and that we need to practise trusting ourselves again in order to overcome anxiety, depression and regain confidence in relationships. The opposite to trust is jumping to conclusions in the face of overwhelming experiences.

Trust is not about investing in what we see and judge to be true. Trusting is about using free will to stay open when we can't see the answer to overwhelming experiences. It is about admitting we don't know the answer. If healing was about following what you see and judge to be true we wouldn't need counseling we would just apply logic to problems and act accordingly. Unfortunately or fortunately, life is mysterious. So therapy needs to accommodate life not the other way around.

This approach has fundamental implications for how we do therapy. Therapy is not about finding answers. It is about regaining confidence to allow life to happen, to allow ourselves the opportunity be surprised by what we can achieve and experience.

Otherwise we live in this endless opposition to ourselves always judging that what we do is not good enough, because we find ourselves never meeting the logical standards we set for ourselves.