Relationships

So often in relationships we feel and think we are missing out on love and happiness. We then project into the future assuming our needs may never be met in a particular relationship. This can prompt much anxiety and depression as we imagine being stuck for ever without love. It is with a strong sense of being stuck that we imagine and assume annihilation if we don't act quickly, get out and find somebody else and move on.

John Bacash's approach is that no matter what the feeling or thought, no matter what we see or imagine, we need to exercise trust and openness as opposed to jumping to conclusions about the value of the other for us. It is out of this mode of being that love and intimacy grow.

One may say they have lost the capacity to trust and invest in the other. But this is not the issue. Trust is not about investing in what you see. Trust is not necessarily about trusting the other. It is about a way of being. It is about choosing to trust in the face of not knowing whether or not your needs will be met. It is about suspending judgements about yourself, the other and other prospects.